Kate Ferdinand admits she was ‘naive’ stepping into her role as step-mother to husband Rio’s kids

Kate Ferdinand has admitted she was ‘naïve’ stepping into the role of step-mother to her husband Rio’s children.

The former TOWIE star, 30, who shares 15-month-old son Cree with football pundit husband Rio, 43, is stepmother to his three older children – Lorenz, 15, Tate, 13, and 10-year-old Tia.

And during an appearance on Wednesday’s Loose Women, Kate admitted she didn’t take into consideration the dynamics when joining the brood as she opened up on life in a blended family.

Meanwhile, on her new podcast Blended, Kate admitted she felt ‘alone’ and ‘isolated’ on Mother’s Day due to the children’s ‘deep loss’.

Candid: Kate Ferdinand has admitted she was ‘naïve’ stepping into the role of step-mother to her husband Rio’s children

Kate married Rio in 2019, four years after his wife Rebecca Ellison died in 2015, two years after being diagnosed with breast cancer.

Speaking to the panel on how she’s found step-motherhood, Kate revealed: ‘I was quite naive stepping into it. I thought I’d be fine. I didn’t really take into consideration the dynamics. ‘

She went on to add: ‘I’ve learned that I am very resilient and that to have a big heart can get you quite far in life.’

Family: The former TOWIE star, 30, who shares 15-month-old son Cree with football pundit husband Rio, 43, is stepmother to his three older children - Lorenz, 15, Tate, 13, and 10-year-old Tia

Family: The former TOWIE star, 30, who shares 15-month-old son Cree with football pundit husband Rio, 43, is stepmother to his three older children – Lorenz, 15, Tate, 13, and 10-year-old Tia

Meanwhile during the chat, Kate told how she’s learned to combat her ‘mum guilt’ and be less hard on herself, with the star even having therapy to help her ‘as and when’.

On how she used to judge herself as a mother, she explained: ‘I’ve always put pressure on myself – it’s impossible to be the perfect mum, cook beautiful healthy dinners every night, go to the gym, spend time with your husband and go to work. ‘

Kate also opened up on how she navigates Mother’s Day, telling the panel that she was ‘trying to balance those emotions when everyone in my house has had such a big loss’ following not only the deaths of the children’s mother but Rio’s mum Janice as well .

Union: Kate married Rio in 2019, four years after his wife Rebecca Ellison died in 2015, two years after being diagnosed with breast cancer

Union: Kate married Rio in 2019, four years after his wife Rebecca Ellison died in 2015, two years after being diagnosed with breast cancer

Honesty: During an appearance on Wednesday's Loose Women, Kate admitted she didn't take into consideration the dynamics when joining the brood as she opened up on life in a blended family

Honesty: During an appearance on Wednesday’s Loose Women, Kate admitted she didn’t take into consideration the dynamics when joining the brood as she opened up on life in a blended family

Difficult: Meanwhile, on her new podcast Blended, Kate admitted she felt 'alone' and 'isolated' on Mother's Day due to the children's 'deep loss'

Difficult: Meanwhile, on her new podcast Blended, Kate admitted she felt ‘alone’ and ‘isolated’ on Mother’s Day due to the children’s ‘deep loss’

Pain: Kate revealed she struggled to celebrate Mother's Day when Tate, Lorenz and Tia were still grieving for their late mum Rebecca (pictured with Rio), who died in 2015

Pain: Kate revealed she struggled to celebrate Mother’s Day when Tate, Lorenz and Tia were still grieving for their late mum Rebecca (pictured with Rio), who died in 2015

The blonde beauty echoed similar on the first episode of her podcast, where Kate opened up on her struggle to mark the occasion, with last Mother’s Day being the ‘toughest to date’.

Being a new mother herself, it was understandable that she wanted to celebrate the day, but told how she struggled to do so when Tate, Lorenz and Tia were still grieving for their late mum.

She explained: ‘Mother’s Day for most people is usually a day that we celebrate the women that shaped us.

‘But unfortunately that is just not the case for everyone. For me personally Mother’s Day is a day that I struggle with.

Judgment: 'I've always put pressure on myself - it's impossible to be the perfect mum, cook beautiful healthy dinners every night, go to the gym, spend time with your husband and go to work'

Judgment: ‘I’ve always put pressure on myself – it’s impossible to be the perfect mum, cook beautiful healthy dinners every night, go to the gym, spend time with your husband and go to work’

Hard: Kate also opened up on how she navigates Mother's Day, telling the panel that she was 'trying to balance those emotions when everyone in my house has had such a big loss'

Hard: Kate also opened up on how she navigates Mother’s Day, telling the panel that she was ‘trying to balance those emotions when everyone in my house has had such a big loss’

Open: The blonde beauty echoed similar on the first episode of her podcast, where Kate opened up on her struggle to mark the occasion, with last Mother's Day being the 'toughest to date'

Open: The blonde beauty echoed similar on the first episode of her podcast, where Kate opened up on her struggle to mark the occasion, with last Mother’s Day being the ‘toughest to date’

‘I’m fortunate to have three amazing step children and my biological son Cree, but sadly my stepchildren lost their mum at a young age and also my husband has lost his mum.’

She added: ‘I really really struggled with Mother’s Day even before I was a biological parent, somehow I thought it would be easier when I had Cree but actually last year was probably the toughest Mother’s Day to date.’

Sharing her guilt at wanting to mark the occasion for herself, Kate went on: ‘It’s a strange feeling the world is celebrating this day and there is a real big loss in my house but also it was my first Mother’s Day – a day in another life that I would really look forward to, but here I am surrounded by my family.

‘How can I have the audacity to celebrate myself when all my family have had such a deep loss. I felt really alone and quite isolated, I didn’t know anyone in a similar situation or going through the same sort of thing as me. ‘

Doting mother: Being a new mother herself, it was understandable that she wanted to celebrate the day, but told how she struggled to do so when Tate, Lorenz and Tia were still grieving for their late mum

Doting mother: Being a new mother herself, it was understandable that she wanted to celebrate the day, but told how she struggled to do so when Tate, Lorenz and Tia were still grieving for their late mum

Guilt: She explained: 'How can I have the audacity to celebrate myself when all my family have had such a deep loss.  I felt really alone and quite isolated. '

Guilt: She explained: ‘How can I have the audacity to celebrate myself when all my family have had such a deep loss. I felt really alone and quite isolated. ‘

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